NcMerci Talk

Executive Order:    Muslims stay away!                 

I don’t know how you feel about the current situation of our country but for the 1st time in my 25 years of life, my eyes are filled with tears because of one man, President Donald Trump. I’m not a political person. I barely watch or read the news. However, does that disqualify me from being an American citizen? It makes me a bit ignorant but apparently, there are far worst people than me in this country seeing who’s in office.

Am I proud of being ignorant?  No but this is an announcement to those who read this that I am what they call ‘Woke’. I will do my upmost best to learn what my government is about and what my rights are because as a young black woman I know that knowledge is key.

I want to speak on the executive order from President Trump to ban those traveling from 7 Muslim dominate countries ( Iraq, Iran, Somalia , Yemen, Sudan, Libya and indefinitely Syria). The traveling ban is set to last 90 days while new refugee admissions will be suspended for 120 days all for the sake of “protecting” Americans.

1st of all, America is all about liberty. If you want some freedom, America is where you want to be. We’ve been fighting liberty for “all of our life” (as country). We fought England to earn independence, we fought amongst ourselves so that we unite as one country, we fought for black rights, women rights, etc. We know and have fought on so many levels, I just don’t understand how those in favor of the ban can’t understand what’s going on with these refugees. Has America lost its basics on humanism? Are we unable to be empathetic and/or sympathetic? Is this order even American?

To explain my frustration, I will tell you about my conversation with my Russian colleague who has been in the country for about 3 years. When news broke out about the order, he said that he agrees with Trump’s order.  Look I’m not going to bash him for agreeing with Trump, it’s a free country where we can say just about anything about anything (no slandering though). However, I don’t agree with his reasoning as I have the right to do. When I asked him why does he approve of an order like this he essentially said that because ‘he feels safer now that the terrorists will be kept out’.  Really dude? Are you really blaming a whole group of people for terrorizing the world, based on their religion?

My co-worker is very much interested relationships and marriage, to get my point across I drew up a scenario where I applied his reasoning of why the ban is good to a relationship.

The scenario:  If I was in Russia and had to live there for the rest of my life, obviously, my dating pool would be Russian men. Let’s say my heart was broken a few times and I conclude that ALL RUSSIAN MEN ARE BAD. So what do I do then? Do I stop dating and die old and alone? No way! That is not the type of future I see for myself. I should keep dating until I find the one. But I would naturally be more defensive and my standards would be raised. I’d probably have a list of what I ‘do’ and ‘don’t’ want from a man. But who’s to say that if I do find someone who fits the mold, they won’t wreak havoc on my heart. So, do I close off my heart even though it gets harder? I already said no to this. My hope and faith is that not every man will be that way and I will live happily.

Life is hard in many ways and I have a lot of worries and fears, but I will not let that affect me anymore. However, I have a President that is feeding and justifying those fears instead of dissuading and reassuring his people that every Muslim people are not our enemy. People tend to fear the unknown, draw up their own conclusions without checking the facts, and accept that fear as fact. As a country, we should try to understand for ourselves what being Muslim is about, so that when we correctly discern who IS the enemy.

All the while, gun regulations are too relaxed. We have had emotionally imbalance U.S. citizens getting their hands on a gun and shooting up schools. We have one too many police officers that think that killing unarmed minority citizens (especially if they are black) is justifiable.  Where are the executive orders to get our country in order?

My name is N.C. and I don’t support ignorance and fear as being the marketing brand of America. I support hope and faith and liberty.





Q&A Mondays! #ncbwqa

I appreciate all the love I have received on the 100% Type of Man Series!!

To return the kindness I would love to strike up a conversation with you and talk about the series and what it means to you. As writer I get bundles of energy thinking that someone like/ could relate to what I have written because I write what’s in heart and mind. Love you guys. I want to have a Q&A session on twitter on Monday. It’ll be my chance to get to know you and vice versa. The hashtag will be #ncbwqa (i.e. ncmerci beaucoup writings q&a). Ask me about anything, ranging from my inspiration for the series, or you can tell me what’s you favorite part/ line was, what you wish to see from me,…anything. I really hope to hear (read) from you. mwah



The Deal: Relationship

I don’t want it
but it’s the only thing I know
I’m on my own.
I love to love
and don’t feel like my heart is out of beat.
I have people in my life that I Love and wouldn’t mind taking care of
and it’s those same people, who will take care for me. I know.

I”m blessed.

Yet, my heart is so guarded , just call it Fort Knox.

I believe that there are no crooks can steal this heart of mine.

I do not mind visitors but I’ll decide whether you’ll be my guest. Forever?
I guess I can thank God for that.
I guess His love is something I need to know
before I can love someone else.

I know how to love and how to use it.

I want to share it with someone who is worth it.

which seems impossible to do.

So I’ll sit. chill. and bow my head because,
I’m glad that He didn’t leave me alone and that I’m surrounded me with amazing people….
As I wait. sit. and chill.
Waiting for someone to blow away all my secret intelligence of the world I think I know.
So I’ll wait. sit. chill.
To feel…what’s God’s Deal.

Seriously Single # 3

I don’t usually get my hopes up because it leads to disappointment. However, disappoint usually tends to find me when I’m alone or with people. So rather than being disappointed because of hope, people’s actions usually does the job. If you consistently say that “I’m going to call you” and you don’t, why would I take anything else you say seriously. Who would want to be in a relationship where s/he doesn’t take you serious? That kind of behavior is not something I care for. Especially if one does not plan on changing.
why do with it?
If that person wants to flirt then flirt with said person. Why? Because it’s fun. Not serious. It makes you feel good. but don’t invest your heart in the transaction.
I’m just saying

Seriously Single #2

I feel like there’s several factors against me in my love life (which is non-existent). However I’m only going to talk about 4 of them.
1) I’m tall. A lot of the men where I live are much shorter than me and they can find that intimidating. I’m not saying I wouldn’t date a shorter man…I’m just saying they’re not liking me.
2) I’m initially shy. I don’t have much experience with guys on a romantic level. The friend zone seems to be a comfortable place. In High School, when everyone was doing slutty thing or “booing” it up, I didn’t care for any of that.
3) The quality of men in Miami seem to suck! A lot of them seem to want a woman who know how to twerk and perform various sexual favors. Basically, they want the current hip hop life. They don’t really take relationships seriously. Check out my last Seriously Single post.
4) I’m a good girl.  Like Good guys we are not appreciated. (later post)

Like if you can relate.